Well, let me start first by saying this is a very interesting story, but not the most desirable start to any relationship. But, for us it worked out; I am so glad it did! Austin is the love of my life, he is my world, my love, my everything, and second in my life to the Great I Am and Lord and Savior. The easiest start to this story is the most painful part for me. However, I hope by telling my story I might help other women, whom have either experienced this already, move on, or whom have never experienced this learn a few things, to assist them in gauging their current or future relationship, whether local or international. But, those lessons will come in a different post, but for now I want to focus on, “How Did Austin & I Meet.”
Ok, so here it goes…
In 2011, I actually met another Nigerian man from the Yoruba Tribe, and in 2012 we met and married. The main reason I married him was, because he told me that in order for us to be together we had to marry and then file for a, “Spousal Visa.” If only I had know then what I now know. What I did not know at the time was that, my now ex-husband, had been lying to me about many things from the very beginning of our relationship, because his primary target was me, as a means to obtain a Greencard to come permanently to America. I, also had no idea of the violent and narcissistic behavior, he had within his darkened soul and hardened heart.
In March 2015 he arrived in the U.S. and by June 2015, he had left me. I tried for months to get him to return home, to no avail. He had stopped almost all communication with me and rarely responded to my emails, after cutting me from all other communication methods. He refused to disclose his location and I was beginning to give up. I had no intentions or plans to meet anyone else, especially not another Nigerian, but God had other plans for me. As I watched my current marriage continue to crumble, I got more involved in a religious Facebook Group I had remained in from my single years through my married years, because I really liked the Christian content and people I met, including Austin, I just had no idea what Austin would come to mean for me in my life.
We began as acquaintances who would comment on one another’s postings occasionally, to then becoming friends on Facebook, next we became close friends outside of Facebook, and then finally falling in love with each other, all while I was still married, but separated for one year. My ex-husband had made no efforts to move toward reconciling our relationship, in fact it seemed that my ex-husband, was moving further from me rather than closer. So there was Austin, he sent me a Facebook friend request and I sat there for 3 days looking at the request, praying to God about it, and checking his profile a lot more thoroughly. I thought well, what could it hurt to have one more friend on my list. I never anticipated he would actually message me.
“Will you marry me.”
“Of course, I will, my love.”
Well, he did message me, the very next day! I saw his message and something urged me to reply him and we have been inseparable ever since. We met on March 2, 2016 and on November 9, 2016 I flew to Nigeria and spent a month with him and met his entire family. It was quite a difference from my visit with my ex-husband. Upon returning to the U.S., I was able to finalize my divorce by October 9, 2017, the day before, I was once again, released from the hospital, still very ill. But, I was present in court, barely hanging on, yet my rx did not appear, however. But, on October 10, 2017 Austin surprised me with a video call and he proposed to me. There he was holding a piece of cardboard with the words, “Will you marry me.” He was all dressed up and waited patiently for me to read the sign. My answer, “Of course, I will, my love.” I have always dreamed a man would decide when he wanted to ask for my hand in marriage without any urgency from me and that he would find some creative way to do so. I knew that when a man came along willing to do all those things for me, he would be the one! It finally happened, with Austin…
The rest is history and our journey truly began that day, because now engaged we could begin the filing process for a K-1 Fiancé Visa. Now it is June 2019 and we are still fighting with immigration to be together. I trust God and I know that soon we shall be together, in His timing, in His way.
But have you ever wondered why your life doesn’t always reflect these promises? How do believers activate God’s promises in their lives? Is there some secret or formula involved? Well, yes, there is, sort of…
This question has always been in my mind. Today, after going through, yet another challenge to my faith in God, I came across this article written by Leslie White on June 3, 2019… Is God talking to me?
Throughout my life I have rarely experienced the promises of God. I have spent most of my life, living in disappointment with my life circumstances, multiple failed relationships, and constant family turmoil. Now, I am dealing with constant daily medical issues and God finally graced my life, by adding Austin to my life, but once again the rejection felt by the interview at the Nigerian Embassy, has me headed backwards in my head, yet again.
I know I should be positive, even with disappointment, because disappointment can become sinful, sin deceives us so that truth seems like a lie, and lies seem like the truth. Check out this article below. It will change your perception.
Today, Austin had his interview with the Embassy in Nigeria and although did not fully deny him a visa, they have not approved him for a visa until I can find a joint sponsor that meets the income requirements I am unable to meet, on my own. In addition, they want more medical records and a statement from me as to why I have not been able to visit for the last two years. This statement they are requesting, they have already, in the 8 or more page letter I typed to USCIS when we filed our case initially.
I am devastated and asking, “why me.” Those around me saying, God has His reasons and I am asking myself why God would allow us to suffer this way, after all we have been through. We have waited 3 years and been through more than one mountain of challenges, several surgeries on me, and many more medical issues. I have no one that can assist or is willing to assist in joint sponsorship of my fiance.
I have been awake more than 24 hours and spent the last 8 to 10 hours crying off and on. When Austin first started telling me the story of what happened, I thought to myself, maybe he is spoofing me again, like he has been doing to me lately. But, the more he talked the more I began to realize the disappointment to come. I spent a month in his arms and wonder when will I see my soulmate, the love of my life, again.
You spend all this time leading up to this one moment in time… You never know what to expect, but you know they already have made their decision before you even arrived. All I can do now is pray that God will find a way for us to be together.
For those of you out there, that are together, hold your loved one close. remember them when they are gone, and love them with all your heart. I wouldn’t wish this feeling on my worst enemy.