Posted in Challenges, This Is Our Journey

Interview Day – The Disappointment

Today, Austin had his interview with the Embassy in Nigeria and although did not fully deny him a visa, they have not approved him for a visa until I can find a joint sponsor that meets the income requirements I am unable to meet, on my own. In addition, they want more medical records and a statement from me as to why I have not been able to visit for the last two years. This statement they are requesting, they have already, in the 8 or more page letter I typed to USCIS when we filed our case initially.

I am devastated and asking, “why me.” Those around me saying, God has His reasons and I am asking myself why God would allow us to suffer this way, after all we have been through. We have waited 3 years and been through more than one mountain of challenges, several surgeries on me, and many more medical issues. I have no one that can assist or is willing to assist in joint sponsorship of my fiance.

I have been awake more than 24 hours and spent the last 8 to 10 hours crying off and on. When Austin first started telling me the story of what happened, I thought to myself, maybe he is spoofing me again, like he has been doing to me lately. But, the more he talked the more I began to realize the disappointment to come. I spent a month in his arms and wonder when will I see my soulmate, the love of my life, again.

You spend all this time leading up to this one moment in time… You never know what to expect, but you know they already have made their decision before you even arrived. All I can do now is pray that God will find a way for us to be together.

For those of you out there, that are together, hold your loved one close. remember them when they are gone, and love them with all your heart. I wouldn’t wish this feeling on my worst enemy.

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I am American and my fiancé is Nigerian (African) from the Igbo Tribe. We were aquaintances in a Christian Facebook group where we followed each other's postings regularly. On April 30, 2016 Austin sent me an official Facebook friend request. For 3 days, I checked his Facebook profile thoroughly (always very important no matter the connection to be established) and I prayed to the Lord for guidance, as I was married to another Nigerian from the Yoruba tribe, but we had been separated for almost a year, since his arrival in the US (never saw that one coming in a million years - story to be added later). I felt the Lord leading me strongly to accept Austin's friend request; therefore, on March 3, 2016 I accepted his friend request; and the rest, as they say, is history. This was the beginning of Our True Love Story and we have been planning our White Wedding for celebration on February 14, 2020 to be held at the Newman's Castle and Newman's Bakery in Bellville, Texas. This has been a long journey for us and we decided to share our story in an effort help other's in relationships similar to our story, to assist them in learning how to navigate the Immigration Process, learning how to keep their relationship alive, and how to communicate and compromise to make it through this long journey, stronger than when they began. We also want to assist with resources whether you plan to file for a spousal visa or a fiancé visa. Making these types of relationships work and last is a journey, in and of itself, not to mention the journey of a lifetime and will certainly be an incredible story to share with friends, family, and especially their children, whether you are a blended family or are planning your future with children. I am a Social Worker by degree with a Bachelor's of Science in Social Work, I love children and I am a true cat lover, owner, and fan; however, I love all animals. I am a devout and faithful Christian with a strong faithful heart, but I am also human. Currently I am on permanent disability and dealing with multiple health issues, but have faith that God will heal me. I own several wonderful cats and I am looking forward to welcoming my wonderful fiancé to the US for the first time and to getting married to my soulmate and love of my life, Austin, within 90 days of his arrival and celebrating our official White Wedding with our family and friends.

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