Well, let me start first by saying this is a very interesting story, but not the most desirable start to any relationship. But, for us it worked out; I am so glad it did! Austin is the love of my life, he is my world, my love, my everything, and second in my life to the Great I Am and Lord and Savior. The easiest start to this story is the most painful part for me. However, I hope by telling my story I might help other women, whom have either experienced this already, move on, or whom have never experienced this learn a few things, to assist them in gauging their current or future relationship, whether local or international. But, those lessons will come in a different post, but for now I want to focus on, “How Did Austin & I Meet.”
Ok, so here it goes…
In 2011, I actually met another Nigerian man from the Yoruba Tribe, and in 2012 we met and married. The main reason I married him was, because he told me that in order for us to be together we had to marry and then file for a, “Spousal Visa.” If only I had know then what I now know. What I did not know at the time was that, my now ex-husband, had been lying to me about many things from the very beginning of our relationship, because his primary target was me, as a means to obtain a Greencard to come permanently to America. I, also had no idea of the violent and narcissistic behavior, he had within his darkened soul and hardened heart.
In March 2015 he arrived in the U.S. and by June 2015, he had left me. I tried for months to get him to return home, to no avail. He had stopped almost all communication with me and rarely responded to my emails, after cutting me from all other communication methods. He refused to disclose his location and I was beginning to give up. I had no intentions or plans to meet anyone else, especially not another Nigerian, but God had other plans for me. As I watched my current marriage continue to crumble, I got more involved in a religious Facebook Group I had remained in from my single years through my married years, because I really liked the Christian content and people I met, including Austin, I just had no idea what Austin would come to mean for me in my life.
We began as acquaintances who would comment on one another’s postings occasionally, to then becoming friends on Facebook, next we became close friends outside of Facebook, and then finally falling in love with each other, all while I was still married, but separated for one year. My ex-husband had made no efforts to move toward reconciling our relationship, in fact it seemed that my ex-husband, was moving further from me rather than closer. So there was Austin, he sent me a Facebook friend request and I sat there for 3 days looking at the request, praying to God about it, and checking his profile a lot more thoroughly. I thought well, what could it hurt to have one more friend on my list. I never anticipated he would actually message me.
“Will you marry me.”
“Of course, I will, my love.”
Well, he did message me, the very next day! I saw his message and something urged me to reply him and we have been inseparable ever since. We met on March 2, 2016 and on November 9, 2016 I flew to Nigeria and spent a month with him and met his entire family. It was quite a difference from my visit with my ex-husband. Upon returning to the U.S., I was able to finalize my divorce by October 9, 2017, the day before, I was once again, released from the hospital, still very ill. But, I was present in court, barely hanging on, yet my rx did not appear, however. But, on October 10, 2017 Austin surprised me with a video call and he proposed to me. There he was holding a piece of cardboard with the words, “Will you marry me.” He was all dressed up and waited patiently for me to read the sign. My answer, “Of course, I will, my love.” I have always dreamed a man would decide when he wanted to ask for my hand in marriage without any urgency from me and that he would find some creative way to do so. I knew that when a man came along willing to do all those things for me, he would be the one! It finally happened, with Austin…
The rest is history and our journey truly began that day, because now engaged we could begin the filing process for a K-1 Fiancé Visa. Now it is June 2019 and we are still fighting with immigration to be together. I trust God and I know that soon we shall be together, in His timing, in His way.