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Cardiac Clearance for Surgery

Yesterday, I had an appointment with a new Cardiologist, because my Podiatrist has requested that I have this prior to surgery. It is my understanding that the Anesthesiologist might refuse and my surgery would have to be rescheduled. My mother had a difficult pregnancy with me and almost lost me. At birth, I was born with the umbilical cord around my neck and part of my body and I wasn’t breathing. It took some time for them to get a response, but later I was diagnosed with an Cardiac Arrhythmia, which is very common; there are more than 3 million per year diagnosed. A Cardiac Arrhythmia is also called an Irregular Heartbeat or improper beating of the heart, whether irregular, too fast, or too slow; and it occurs when electrical impulses in the heart don’t work properly.

I now have surgery scheduled, on October 30, 2019, the day before Halloween. It is difficult being so far apart from my wonderful fiancé, Austin, because I really hoped he would be here with me by now. I did not want to have another surgery without Austin by my side. Austin’s voice helps to soothe me when I am desperately in pain. He also has a way to calm me down when I become upset. I love him very much and miss him terribly. If I could visit him again, I would be on the next plane to Nigeria, but since my return from my last trip I was told that I would not be allowed to fly again without a physician’s clearance; which to date I have been unable to obtain due to some health issues that are slowly getting better. I dread going into surgery, because I know I will not be able to hold his hand and give him a kiss and knowing that when I wake up his face would be the first face I see.
International Relationships are extremely difficult, especially when you have health issues. Austin is my emotional support and I for him, as well. But, it just is not the same as having him with me physically. It is also difficult knowing that someone whom has never seen us together and spends only 5 minutes with us to tell us whether we can be together or not.

The Immigration process doesn’t make our lives any easier.

All I kept thinking when I was at the doctor appointment this morning was how much I truly miss Austin. Despite the stressors I have endured lately, I obtained cardiac clearance and have my surgery date. Since I was 18 years old I have now endured 26 surgeries and I still have many more to go, before this part of my journey is complete. I despise what Austin must go through every single day just so he can make sure that he is always available for me whenever I might need him for an emergency. But, he tries so hard and he truly does so much for me on a day to day basis.

I just pray that this upcoming surgery on my right foot will have me up and walking some until I have my next surgery to have my stimulators removed. Eventually, I will need a total knee replacement, wrist surgery, pain pump surgery, and lastly skin removal and a breast reduction and lift combined with Hernia repairs (I hope). I am so thankful to have Austin by my side at least through electronics, for now. It really sucks that our Immigration system would not even issue a Tourist Visa for him to be here for my surgery.


Austin, I love you so very much and I can’t wait until we are together again. You are my soulmate!

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I am American and my fiancé is Nigerian (African) from the Igbo Tribe. We were aquaintances in a Christian Facebook group where we followed each other's postings regularly. On April 30, 2016 Austin sent me an official Facebook friend request. For 3 days, I checked his Facebook profile thoroughly (always very important no matter the connection to be established) and I prayed to the Lord for guidance, as I was married to another Nigerian from the Yoruba tribe, but we had been separated for almost a year, since his arrival in the US (never saw that one coming in a million years - story to be added later). I felt the Lord leading me strongly to accept Austin's friend request; therefore, on March 3, 2016 I accepted his friend request; and the rest, as they say, is history. This was the beginning of Our True Love Story and we have been planning our White Wedding for celebration on February 14, 2020 to be held at the Newman's Castle and Newman's Bakery in Bellville, Texas. This has been a long journey for us and we decided to share our story in an effort help other's in relationships similar to our story, to assist them in learning how to navigate the Immigration Process, learning how to keep their relationship alive, and how to communicate and compromise to make it through this long journey, stronger than when they began. We also want to assist with resources whether you plan to file for a spousal visa or a fiancé visa. Making these types of relationships work and last is a journey, in and of itself, not to mention the journey of a lifetime and will certainly be an incredible story to share with friends, family, and especially their children, whether you are a blended family or are planning your future with children. I am a Social Worker by degree with a Bachelor's of Science in Social Work, I love children and I am a true cat lover, owner, and fan; however, I love all animals. I am a devout and faithful Christian with a strong faithful heart, but I am also human. Currently I am on permanent disability and dealing with multiple health issues, but have faith that God will heal me. I own several wonderful cats and I am looking forward to welcoming my wonderful fiancé to the US for the first time and to getting married to my soulmate and love of my life, Austin, within 90 days of his arrival and celebrating our official White Wedding with our family and friends.

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